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The thread there, for those who do not know, deals with an abusive relationship masking as BDSM, in which there is also a large age gap. I know the thread you're referring to, and I don't think it's that clear cut. What do you think? Do most guys think that a relationship between ages 19-43 is wrong? I thought here would be a good place to find more thoughtful opinions on that. Smells of prejudice and puritanism to me.
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Though I might be wrong, I think this issue is a no brainer to the former, while, in the later, some people react as if it were like having sex with a dog. I'm from Brazil and I notice age gaps are seen radically different in gay internet groups there in comparison to English speaking subreddits. They were not talking about age gaps in general, but particularly about people that young being too naive for a relationship with men who are considerably older and would have too much power over and possibly prey upon them (probably it would be fine for them if the younger guys were 30 or so). I've just come from this sub's brother sub and was really shocked to see people saying a relationship between a 19yo and a 43+ man is "wrong, abnormal, gross". Keeping conversations productive and friendly is what gives you the freedom to know if you have a question, the responses you get will be productive and friendly. Report the comment or post and the moderators will review and take appropriate steps. If you think someone is trolling, don't feed them. Unless you have a specific reason, try to give people the benefit of the doubt. If you're posting about sex, keep the title safe for work and save the gory details for the description. Help make the page something nice to look at and something a guy could read at his job. Just remember to take people's replies for what they are: someone else's opinion. Avoid rants and only post if you really want honest discussion with the community here. At this point in life, we should know what topics are emotionally charged and posts about them should be worded with care. Handle thorny issues and controversial topics with maturity and kindness. Keep in mind that this is a forum for guys over 30 so the questions and comments should be interesting and relevant to them. Talk about things that will be interesting for others as well as yourself. Treat this space as if you're having drinks with potential friends. This rule is not meant to dissuade discussions about depression. International resources can be found here - and on /r/SuicideWatch/. In the US, please do not hesitate for a moment to call 1-80 (National Suicide Prevention Hotline). No threats of self-harm or suicide If you are in crisis right now, there are professionals all over the world who are equipped to help you better than this this community is able. This includes homo/trans/etc.-phobic or sexist remarks. Posts that are immature in tone or make a sweeping, negative generalization about gay men or the "gay community" may be removed.
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